Opportunities to Experience a New Approach

In our world today what is truth and what is fact has become a source of confusion and anxiety. These words are being used in order to justify beliefs and opinions. We are in a precarious situation of no longer having confidence in our knowing.

Family Constellation work builds on fact. We ask for significant past life events. These events have usually created life experiences that block the natural flow of life. 

They become the building blocks of a constellation. Through the facts of the events that are no longer ignored or hidden, we tap into the truth of what happened that brings us closer to a sense of inner belonging and wholeness. 

We see, listen and respond to what is happening in the moment rather than defining or meaning making . We expand our view to include everything at the same time listening for what strikes at the heart of the client’s issue.

This requires a state of inner spaciousness, an openness, that includes everybody in the system including the relational field which shows itself in the movement of the constellation itself.

Here are a couple of cases. They each show a principle underlying the constellation work:

A woman shares that as a child she had been sexually abused by her father on a regular basis. Now she is afraid of an intimate relationship.

If we listen and include all, we cannot hold the father solely responsible . We must include the mother as well. We ask: what happened that the mother did not protect her daughter?  We expand our view and the system widens to reveal a network of entangled relationships.

A single mother raises her son alone holding resentment towards her son’s father. Her son becomes a drug addict. The son feels caught between his loyalty to his mother ( possibly to hate his father) and his desire to connect with his father. In order to stay loyal to his mother he chooses the drug world.

Natural principles such as the orders of love shown in the first case and the principle of a child’s loyalty to both parents in the second example provide the structure or backbone of our lives.  They apply to all life situations and relationships; they form one’s moral values of right and wrong, the dynamics of relationship within families and organizations. They apply to our society, culture and collective.

Knowing this helps us to a deeper understanding of what’s happening in our world today.

I will be offering several opportunities these next months to experience this approach.

I hope you can come.